Understanding Domestic Violence
Learn what domestic violence is, recognize the warning signs, and explore ways HAVEN can help.
Defining Domestic Violence
What is Domestic Violence
Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behaviors used by one person to gain or maintain power and control over another in an intimate or family relationship. It is not limited to physical harm—domestic violence can include emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, digital, and spiritual abuse. Anyone, regardless of age, gender, background, or identity, can experience domestic violence.
Domestic violence is never the survivor’s fault. It is always a choice made by the person using harm to exert control.
Forms of Domestic Violence
Abuse comes in many different forms...
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Recognizing the Impact of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence affects survivors in many different ways — physically, emotionally, and within the community. By understanding the warning signs and the impacts, we can better support those experiencing abuse and connect them with the help they deserve. HAVEN provides free, confidential services to meet survivors where they are and to build a safer future for all.
Signs of Violence
• Controlling where you go or who you see
• Isolation from friends or family
• Threats, intimidation, or humiliation
• Physical harm or threats of harm
Impacts on Survivors
• Physical injury
• Trauma, anxiety, or depression
• Housing or financial instability
• Fear and loss of independence
How HAVEN Helps
• 24/7 crisis line and safety planning
• Counseling & wellness programs
• Emergency shelter and housing assistance
• Legal advocacy and court accompaniment
Local Impact
• HAVEN has provided crisis services in The Dalles and surrounding areas for over 40 years.
• Hundreds of survivors each year receive free, confidential support.
Resource Center
Explore tools and guides designed to help you understand abuse, recognize patterns, and plan for safety. These resources are commonly used by advocates and are available to download or view online.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Call, chat, or text to connect with trained advocates nationwide.
OCADSV
Oregon Coalition Against Domestic & Sexual Violence: statewide organization supporting local programs and advocacy.
Power & Control Wheel
Visual guide to how abusers use power and control in relationships. A key tool for recognizing patterns of abuse.
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